What is love?
I'll tell you what it's not.
It's not dependancy. You should miss whoever you are in love with of course or want to be around them but it should not be a dependent relationship where you can't breathe without them or can't be by yourself. Love isn't about finding someone who becomes your heroine. You should not desperately need them to the point where you'll do anything for them, even harm yourself. You should never be killing yourself (emotionally or physically) for someone you love.
Love isn't a secret. It shouldn't be something you don't tell anyone about. {In my opinion it shouldn't be posted all over Facebook either} - but love is not mean to be completely hidden. You should not be in love with someone who doesn't even acknowledge your existence unless you are in private. Love is supposed to be magical and you are supposed to want to share that love with others, you aren't supposed to feel like someone's invisible friend.
Love isn't sad. You shouldn't relate to every Adele/Taylor Swift song about break ups while you are "in love." Love is not supposed to hurt you. It's not supposed to tear you down or make you feel like a piece of dirt. Love is supposed to lift you up and make you feel invincible. Love is supposed to be enough. Enough to get you threw your hardest battles, it shouldn't be your toughest battle.
Love shouldn't be a seesaw of "I want you, I don't want you, I don't want to talk to you. I need you. Come back. Go away." It's supposed to be constant, it's not supposed to fail you. Love shouldn't be a constant fight. It shouldn't be a competition of who can get back at the other person more than last time. It's supposed to be a partnership. You should never have to wonder whether or not the other person loves you back.
Love shouldn't be any of these things, and yet that is the kind of love most people know. That is the kind of love I've known. Not the only love I've known but I've definitely known this kind of love. Sometimes what you think your life with someone is going to look like and the reality of what it really is do not match up. And the next thing you know you're in an awful relationship that no one even knows about. That is not the kind of love anyone should know.
But honestly, I'm done. I'm letting go and I won't let anyone drag me down again. Life's all about learning, sometimes that means the hard way. Sometimes you have to get hit in the face a few times before you learn to duck, or better yet, put a hand up to block the next hit. Regardless of how you learn, the important part is that you do eventually learn.
Don't ever accept anything less than what you deserve from anyone. Even if they are your best friend who you've suddenly fallen in love with. Guess what? You'll find a new best friend. You'll find someone else to fall in love with. You will survive. That's the good news. And in the mean time, throw on some Adele and start moving on.
Fall in love. Not lust. Don't be apart of a destructive relationship of "love" that I just described because it's not what anyone deserves. Don't get attached to someone who isn't worth a minute of your time, and don't hold on just because you are scared to let go, because you can't get to the next monkey bar without letting go of the one you're on.
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